*Note* – This is Soo Jin’s husband hi-jacking his wife’s blog to do a guest post
Another decade passes by…3rd one to be exact.
I know it’s just another notch to add to my belt, but I couldn’t help but reflect on the past 10 years of my life. First off, I can’t even remember what I did for my 20th birthday and to think how long it feels since then…this gives me incredible joy knowing how much more time I have in this world to enjoy with my family and change it. I have learned a great deal in these past 10 years. I’ve learned just how greedy and selfish I was. To everybody who showed me love through my crap, I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Some of you guys know this about me, but when I turned 25, my life goal was to make my first $1,000,000 before I turned 30 and buy an Audi R8. The thought of getting married and having a beautiful little girl NEVER crossed my mind. Working was my life and everything I talked about, posted on Facebook, tweeted…(jk, I don’t use Twitter) was about my profession and making money. No, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with making a ton of money…just as long as you don’t define yourself by the size of your bank account.
God had MUCH bigger plans for me because he brought into my life the only woman who would be able to break my hard heart, fight through my bullshit and literally change my life.
Soo Jin – I sincerely hope you always know that I am forever thankful that I somehow was able to con you into marrying a loser like the 27 year-old version of me. Over the past several years, I know I haven’t been the easiest person to deal with but as I escape my twenties and move onto my thirties, there’s nothing more I could ask for in this world than looking forward to always loving you and being loved by you.
I actually had a conversation with Soo Jin this past week and I shared with her how I feel like I wasted my twenties working 18+ hour days and that I have so many regrets. What she said brought me a lot of comfort and made me realize that mistakes truly are a blessing in disguise as long as you extract the little bit of wisdom that each decision carries. If I could sit down with the 25 year old version of Max and have a face to face chat, first thing I’d do is smack him as hard as I possibly can. Actually on second thought, he was a lot stronger than the 30 year old version so maybe that wouldn’t be the best idea. Anywhoo, here are the top 7 things I wish I could tell myself.
- Do NOT forget about Jesus just because things are going well
- Stop obsessing over money, it’s one of the most toxic ways to mess up your life
- Get your temper under control NOW
- Buy a house, not a nice car. Having a nice car that’s parked outside your apartment is not something to be proud of
- You’re not ready to start and run a company, so make sure you take a little time off working and invest some of your time into building stronger relationships…it’ll be a better use of your time
- Floss every night you lazy bum
- Think about what you want in life…then think about it again without the things you first thought about. That’s what you should work towards
I’m incredibly thankful today for what God has done in my life. I’m especially thankful that money is not something I use to define myself anymore. What excites me most is that if given the choice between an Audi R8 vs a jogging stroller that I can use to take my little Evelyn for a run…I’ll pick the stroller 7 days out of the week.
With a new perspective on life, an incredible wife, an amazing daughter, and super awesome friends…nothing can stop me (we’ll see what the 40 year old version of me says to that).